you know you've had them. Make them up, because I need a slightly funny and entertaining sub-plot...

It might be easier if you gave a bit of info about what kind of situation these exes have to fit into.

Do you want people who do awful things after being dumped, people who just won't take no for an answer? Male or female? Age range?
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Good luck to you all.

well, no specifics of the situation have actually been decided. What we do know is that they're in their late teens, and the guy is the weird/psycho one and they have been broken up for a few weeks at most. What kind of weird quirks/situations might make this a funny or awkward subplot?

XOXO

True breakup from my mid-teens.
I went out with this guy for about three or four months before I realized that he was not only a total loser, but incredibly clingy (would come to my house every day for at least an hour after being in class together all day, then call me two hours later every single night kinda thing). So we broke up and I thought it was kind of a mutual thing. I was just shy of fifteen, he was sixteen.

A few days later, his friends started seriously harassing me. One lived just down the street, and he would actually yell at my house as he walked by. I still don't know if the ex had anything to do with this or if his friends were just being jerks, but I was pretty freaked out at the time. At about the same time, he made up a story about a fake girlfriend in another town, I can only assume to make me jealous.

A couple months later, my parents ran into his at the grocery store. My mother, being nice, said hello. His mother started screaming that I had ruined their son's life.

About five months after the breakup, having not spoken to him since then, I got a handwritten letter left on my front porch. The gist of it was that he thought he had made a mistake (even though I broke up with him) and wanted me back. The fact that he included a story about how his uncle had just committed suicide kinda freaked me out, though. This was over the summer, so I just ignored it since I wouldn't have to see him in school for another couple of months and just wanted the whole thing to blow over.

Then comes the really bizarre part. Senior year, three full years after we dated, a friend pulls me aside to go to the yearbook office. Senior memories had just been turned in, and his were all about how sorry he was that he had hurt me and he knew I would never give him another chance but he still loved me anyhow (even though we'd been in the same homeroom every year and he still never spoke to me). My mother, convinced that the kid was going to go crazy and shoot me or something, called the school and was informed that they couldn't force someone to change their senior memories just because of one person's feelings about them. So now I'm stuck with a high school yearbook in which a guy I never should have dated when I was fourteen professes his undying love for me.

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Wow, I'm sorry to hear that, Elisha. My experience wasn't nearly as bad as that.

Okay, picture it: I'm eighteen. The boy who's infatuated with me is 16. Any questions? Good.

Now, it's not that he was a bad guy--he was just, like Elisha was saying, really clingy. I went to a Christian summer camp one year and the only reason he went was because I was going to be there. He did everything possible to display his interest in me in the most "subtle" ways (rubbing up against me during these platform balance excercises and whatnot). He would sidle up to me out of my field of vision and spook the crap out of me once he started talking. I thought I'd befriend him, just get along with him.

But he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. Now, he asks me this in front of other kids. I don't want to completely crush him in front of his friends. So I said yes and decided to tell him the truth once we were out of the gossipy kids' earshot.

But word got around quickly that we were "dating." It embarrassed me greatly.

After camp, he began calling my house nonstop. (He got my number from the church office, by the way.) He kept trying to get me to come over his house at late hours of the night (eleven to one in the morning) to "watch stuff". I kept telling him no. He would call twenty-eight times straight a day. And, because a girl I knew didn't know the meaning of "don't give him my cell phone number", he began calling my cell all day long. So if I didn't answer on my cell, he'd call the house. And he'd repeat the cycle.

I finally tried to pull him aside one day and tell him that I definitely wasn't interested, especially since our relationship was NOT LEGAL. He said he didn't care. I laughed and said that I cared because I would be the one going to jail if anyone found out about it. He STILL said he didn't care. He said that he could be "the man I needed him to be" and all this stuff. I ignored it and said that we were over.

He kept trying to call the house three weeks after that. Finally, Dad asked me if I wanted him to stop calling. I'd told him yes, so he obliged in answering the phone every time he called, telling him that I wasn't interested.

The gossip-y kids wanted to know what happened. When I told them, they understood and tried to explain it to this boy. He moved a few days later. Somehow he'd gotten my e-mail (possibly because that same girl who gave out my cell phone number gave it to him) and told me that he still loved me and all of this and would keep in touch.

I've been able to dwindle his e-mails to none over this last year, thank goodness.
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I don't have a crazy ex, but my older sister does.
My sister dated this guy for a couple years, and he was like part of the family-- he joined us on our vacations, came over for holiday dinners, etc. He was the sweetest guy and everyone from my grandmother to my cat loved him. He's a year older than my sister, and when he graduated, he went to a community college, so they were still going out. But when SHE graduated, she went out of state, and after a semester decided she didn't really want to deal with a long distance relationship, and broke up with him.
And pretty much he was a mess. He brought back everything that reminded him of her, all the things she'd given him, even the laundry detergent my family gave him once (he hadn't used it, because he wanted to treasure it forever or something). He came up with the most random excuses to stop by our house (once he dug up all this clay from his backyard and brought it to us) despite the fact my sister no longer lived at home. Then he started calling me up, and crying (the strangest conversation was when he was like, 'I have to drink gallons of water everyday, because I cry so much about your sister breaking up with me' and I was like 'uh...okay'). He'd also sometimes invite me and my younger siblings to hang out with him (movies, burger shop, etc), which wasn't that strange when my sister was dating him, but it was awkward afterwards. It was hard to know what to do because we didn't want to hurt his feelings, but really didn't want to spend time with him, mostly because by then he was really off his rocker. He was on all of our "Buddy Lists" for instant messaging, and he would IM my siblings and I NONSTOP. He transfered schools to where my sister's best friend goes, and he bugged her so much she had to get a restraining order. He also visited my grandmother several times a week in the nursing home and brought her coffee and grilled cheese sandwiches (random...). My grandmother didn't mind that much, but it was awkward if we'd come visit and he was there. This also put my grandmother in a tough spot because she knew that my sister didn't like him visiting, and she felt awkward having him there, but she didn't have the heart to tell him to stop coming. After a couple years, he got a new girlfriend, and I thought he was out of our life, but then I found out my 13-year-old sister still talked to him on AIM, and he was really bothering her. I eventually convinced her to just block him, and it seems like all is well now.

woah... that was really crazy. I'm really really sorry for you guys

XOXO

I'm a lawyer and a mother of a 13 yo.

Girls-these guys are stalkers. Elisha, the school should have never printed the undying love memories--and your parents could have threatened to sue them (and should have). It's part of a pattern of harrassment that you should not be made to endure.

Boys and men must learn that no means no. Restraining orders are definitely the way to go for any and all of these situations. Parents can talk directly with other parents, but if that doesn't work, legal action is in order.

Mentally healthy boys may be temporarily depressed by a break-up. They may even try (in a reasonable manner) to rekindle the flame (a few phone calls, a bouquet of flowers). But when you draw a line and make it clear and the guy doesn't stop-that's sexual harrassment. And it could lead to real danger.

When I saw the post was about crazy exes, I didn't know I'd stumble into stuff like this. (I've been married. I could say my ex was crazy--he eventually got a bunch of cats, sort of like a cat-lady. I thought that's the kind of stuff that would be here.) These situations are frightening.

Makes note-must talk with daughter...

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