Relationship Motivation

Annje Davis-Walker

118 pages

Posted
March 16, 2008 - 5:08pm

Relationship Motivation

Ok, so for March, I'm writing a practice script, mostly to see if I have the stamina for this, creatively speaking. In my practice run, my Femlead is lunching with her BF at a cafe when he tells her it's over, he's been seeing another, and that her old tricks just aren;t doing it for him anymore.

But this isn't the case. He's not been seeing anyone, he really loves her, and he's terrified of ehat the relationship has done to him and what he's now done to her by saying all that rubbish.

My question is, what would motivate him to do this? He's not really fleshed out, or I would be able to aswer it myself...

TRaSH__xx

100 pages

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 4:54am

RE: Relationship Motivation

I'd say fear(of the relationship ending badly, getting dumped/rejected) or paranoia. Maybe he has some kind of complex, so he's freaking out about this relationship and thinks the only way he can set things right is to destroy it?

AKA, I really don't know XD I threw some ideas out there. Hope I was of some help?

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a) give you up
b) let you down
c) run around
d) desert you

swimmiegirl89

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 7:11am

RE: Relationship Motivation

Or maybe you could go all "Eli Stone" on us and give him some kind of potentially fatal health condition.

It could have that effect.

i left before the lights came on

124 pages

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 7:15am

RE: Relationship Motivation

these are all such complex answers!
I just thought he was scared of getting too close. Like, he thought she'd be happier on her own, or that he had either been hurt by or lost most people who were close to him, etc.
But I do like fatal illnesses. :P

Rev.BS

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 11:29am

RE: Relationship Motivation

I would say fear would be the best thing. Maybe the idea of him being with the same person when there is still so much that he wants to do it what's driving him to want to end it. He's been in the relationship for so long that he hasn't be able to see himself as a person rather then part of a couple. The reason why he lies to her about the other person? He doesn't want to seem selfish by telling her the truth that he wants to be his own person or that he wants to live on his own. If told her the truth there is the chance that she might accept it and pester him, but if she writes him off as a jerk for cheating on her she would have the motivation to distance herself from him as much as possible.

That's all I've got.

lisamelvin

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 4:46pm

RE: Relationship Motivation

I think a lot of men are scared of being in relationships with people they really love because they're scared of getting hurt/having their pride hurt. So I think you don't even really need to explain it, it's just a fact of life really.

Or is it just a fact of MY life? Sob.

PenGryphon2007

59 pages

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 5:04pm

RE: Relationship Motivation

Everyone seems to be mentioning "fear", but I want to say it's "lack of confidence". Maybe he's in to deep, or maybe he's sensitive to her needs and decides that maybe she doesn't like him as much as she used to? Perhaps he's been in a relationship similar to this one before and was burned by it?

I have a character who's quite different, but is going through a similar thing: he's afraid to get close to anyone, other than his best friend. It turns out that he had been engaged to a woman but she ran off with another man (that or she died, not sure which yet, though I'm leaning with the first one).

The trick is to flesh out your character. Ask questions, pry into his life, inquire about past and current friends and family. Once you can get inside your MC's brain, you can find just about any piece of info you want. OR you could make it a mystery that the woman must find out why he's ending the relationship so quickly -- and thus change the genre of your script. (Just what kind of job does your MC hold? Is it secretive or classified? Does he have a deeper secret that he's afraid will be exposed and drive her away?

The choice is up to you. Good luck!

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Annje Davis-Walker

118 pages

Posted
March 17, 2008 - 5:33pm

RE: Relationship Motivation

Great responses! Thank you all!

He's pretty unwilling to talk since he's convinced I'll just be killing him at the end, but so far it's gone very well based on the replies I've gotten.

Thank you!

Breathlessly,
Annje Davis-Walker
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Fanci Berndt

14 pages

Posted
March 28, 2008 - 4:00pm

RE: Relationship Motivation

Fear of Commitment.
It's a chronic condition for some guys.

Fanci
think it, believe it, let it happen.