I am having issues writing a break up scene. I have never been broken up with, or had to break up with someone, so this more difficult that it should be. I have been watching movies with break up scenes in them, but a lot of those are exaggerated and unrealistic. Any suggestions on how to go about this?

I've had a few break ups in my life, so I guess I would say I have some experience. Usually, the guy that's breaking up with me tries to be as vague as possible about why he wants to break up. The first breakup I had, the guy told me that he thought he cared about someone else, and he didn't think that was fair to me. The second breakup I had, the guy just said "It's just not working out" but wouldn't tell me why. So I have found that guys aren't harsh and dramatic about the break up as much as girls might be. (Those were the only two relationships I had that could actually be considered relationships - I'm more of a casual dater)

I've never actually broken up with someone. I do the "typical guy thing" and stop calling, because it's hard to bring it up, and it's hard to explain to someone why it's not working for you. I think in general people do their best to not be hurtful.

I actually think the movie "The Break Up" with Jennifer Aniston, is a pretty good depiction (although exaggerated) of a couple breaking up. It usually starts with a fight over something small, that brings up things that have happened in the past or ends up being an example of a continual problem. Sorry, this all sounds kind of rambley, but I hope it helped a little?

Thanks for the reply! It definitely gives me some good ideas. I will have to rent the break up soon. I saw it a while ago, but yeah.. it's been a while. A lot of the movies I have seen it is the guy breaking up with the girl, and in my screenplay it's the other way around.
Thanks again!

I like the idea of using technology in a break-up scene. There are so many forms of technology we can communicate through, and it can save the face-to-face awkwardness and aftermath.

My series begins with a break-up that's done via a long-distance phone call while the protagonist is driving. So not cool!

As a more general note, I agree that people often try really hard not to 'hurt' the person they're dumping, even though it's inevitable. Though, I think this is often due less to compassion and more to cowardice!

On the other hand, it can be just as painful to dump someone as it is to be dumped. Depending on the reasons why the character has chosen to dump the guy, the break-up can involve feelings of anger and/or resentment (especially if she feels she's been wasting her time), regret and/or guilt (for having done the wrong thing by the guy), loss (emotionally she doesn't want to lose him, but she has to for some reason) or... jubilation! (that'd be pretty callous, unless the guy totally deserves to be kicked to the kerb and the girl is finally standing up for herself)!

Good luck! :)

Thanks! Definitely helps. It has to be in person, but I might add some technology stuff to it. And the break up is brought on by a mix of

"resentment (especially if she feels she's been wasting her time)"... and "loss (emotionally she doesn't want to lose him, but she has to for some reason)"

Ooh, internal conflict - juicy!

I definetly think this sounds interesting. You have caught my attention.

haha, thanks. Now I still have to write it.. I think I have a good start, but I need to add more emotion into it. I don't want my MFC to come across like an uber witch, because she's not. It all gets brought on by a huge misunderstanding, which most relationships suffer through, but it leads to the break up and then all the feelings get thrown on the table that I talked about up there ^^^^ :)

Most breaks are permanent and when one is on a break they are free to do whatever they want. This includes seeing other people, in her case guys.

You stated this break was dreading because nobody wanted to step up and see something but the alcohol gave you courage to.

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